In the years of working with children and adolescents I have grown to realize that in the midst of a meltdown, what are the factors that I need to know in order to help this child. The first thing to know when dealing with a child that suffers from any type of mental illness, you must learn to identify their triggers to their meltdowns. Once you know what triggers your child into a meltdown, it will be easier to avoid those triggers and eliminate the meltdowns. Once in a meltdown, if your child is upset and angry with you which naturally happens because you are the main “enforcer” in their eyes, it is best to have someone else, “swooper” come in and “swoop in” to take over the situation. This person should come into the situation as neutral energy and be as gentle as possible, redirecting the child’s focus from the situation at hand possibly with distraction such as bringing them a snack, or sitting with them to pop in a movie, or playing a game, anything that will take their focus off the issue at hand and distract their attention from it. Some people will think to themselves, “Hmmm, so reward them for their distasteful behavior?” Ultimately, you need to step back and look at the whole picture. This child has a mental illness and at times cannot control what they do because they cannot help themselves. So please continue to read and you will see the reason for this approach. Once the child, is calm and distracted, then the “Swooper” will then talk to the child about what happened, such as why and what upset them and be encouraged to speak with the “Enforcer” to come to a resolve and what can be done differently next time. Always start the conversation with a hug and end it with a hug, reassuring them that they are safe and they feel your love. Feel free to email me for any questions or comments you may have. Have a blessed day and live every day in the same light you wish to shine in moments of darkness…
I'm a mother with an agenda to save her son from the grips of his mental illness and stop stigma so that those who suffer in silence can seek help without fearing the worse. Join me on this roller coaster ride..you're no longer alone.