I'm still trying to get use to having this blog. I have so much to say and I'm trying really hard to figure out how to put it into words. I don't want to type things without giving everything a lot of thought. It's so important to me and I want to make sure that when you read it. You feel the way I did when I was typing it or experiencing it.
Anyway, I want to invite you to save the date for November 24, 2013. This is the day that our story will be published for all to read and see. I have met some awesome people through CNN.com. They felt our story was compelling enough for them to spend months interviewing us and documenting our everyday life. Our last interview was a few days ago. I feel I've accomplished something that I thought would be impossible. I guess you can say once this is published, I can mark this off my bucket list. :)
I have been mentally preparing myself for the backlash that I may get in reference to our story. I'm working towards not taking everything so personal. Being a mom of a child with several mental health diagnosis, you take criticism to heart. People tend to have an opinion or tend to pass judgement on your parenting skills. When it comes to handling or dealing with your child and his/hers mental health, everyone thinks they know what's best for them. There is one thing everyone must understand. You cannot discipline them like a typical child without an illness. Their behavior is not typical. I've learned that you have to figure out the triggers and that you need to approach it in a non-confrontational way. This took me years to figure out. Now we work together to figure out what's going on and it's less stressful for everyone. It's not always perfect but nothing ever is. Second, the stigma is the worst when it comes to mental health issues. No one wants to speak about it. The worst I ever experienced was the stigma from my family and most of my friends. You think the closest people would be the ones to understand the most but that's not always true. For the first few years of my son's diagnosis, I was alone. I had never felt loneliness in my life like I did then. It was the worst feeling ever. I want to stop the stigma, I want people to read this and feel that finally they aren't the only ones going through this and reach out and search for others they can relate to. Don't be afraid and don't be ashamed. Life is too precious to allow the uneducated get you down and keep you from doing what is best for you and your family.
This was was suppose to be a short blog entry but as you can see mental health issues not only affects the person ill but also the people that care for them. I can go on and on for years but I won't. There is plenty of time for all that.
Remember all you have to do is listen, no opinion, no judgement is necessary. Just listen, sometimes being a great friend without any feedback is the best medicine for someone going through a hard time.
Have a great Sunday!!
“The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” ~Wayne Dyer
I'm a mother with an agenda to save her son from the grips of his mental illness and stop stigma so that those who suffer in silence can seek help without fearing the worse. Join me on this roller coaster ride..you're no longer alone.